A Guide to Coming Out in the LGBTQ+ Community : How to Make Sure it’s Safe to Come Out

By Katie Floyd

Katie Floyd, Rookie Reporter

You’re feeling like it’s time to come out, and you feel ready to do so.

Now what? Here’s a step by step guide on how to come out if you’re unsure that you’re safe in your current situation.

  1. Test The Waters: mention a gay couple or transgender person, I recommend that whoever you mention has the same identity as you, in a conversation with your family, or whoever you’re unsure about coming out to. Their reaction will show you if it is safe to come out to them or not. If they have a negative reaction to the mention of a LGBTQ+ person, then coming out to them may not be the best idea.
  2. Decide How To Come Out: This is completely characteristic and dependent upon you and your family’s level of acceptance. If there is even the slightest chance that you will be hurt, shamed, or kicked out for being who you are, please don’t come out until you are out of the house and completely independent from the unaccepting party. If your family is accepting, you can come out in any way you want–even making a cake with your pride flag on it! If you’re not sure if your family is accepting or not, ease them in with a gentle conversation that leads to you revealing your identity.
  3. Have a Backup if Things Go Wrong: Make sure that you can go to a supportive friend’s house if you need to leave your home. Let them know right before you come out, and text them after if you need to stay at their house that night or not.
  4. Actually Do All of This: Just follow this guide and you should be able to come out safely! I know it’s scary, but you’ve got this. Good luck, and don’t pressure yourself to come out if you are not ready. 
  5. Remember: Coming out will affect your life in many ways, and if you aren’t ready for it, don’t do it.